My Relationship with Money

I don’t have a good relationship with money - I never have. Until this year, I’ve never really understood where my money was going. I pay my bills on time, but they always seem very separate, both literally and figuratively. I make a good living, but I always think about how much I am spending, and I’m always asking myself: why I can never get ahead, and why am I always feeling the pinch at the end of the month? The reality is, I know why I can’t get ahead: I don’t have a good relationship with money. Duh.

I don’t like talking about money. We rarely talked about money at home when I was a child. Although my parents did to the basics of showing me how to open a bank account and balance a checkbook, we never talked about it. Never. We were comfortable, I think, but I honestly had no idea about my family’s money situation growing up. 

In American society, Money is basically a taboo subject: “Shhhh. Don’t ask that person how much money they make.” “Ooohhhh, they declared bankruptcy. What is wrong with them?” “Nice girls don’t talk about money.” I never had a personal finance class in school (at any level). No one ever said to me: here’s what you need to know about how to live a comfortable life. I find myself in my 40s, wondering how I even got this far? Financial literacy?? What?

When I incorporated Healthy Body, Happy Life this year, I made myself a promise to tackle “Money” head-on. It’s partly about being a responsible business owner, partly about changing bad habits, and partly about self-care. Self-care for me means many things, but one major meaning for me is removing doubt and fear.

  • Removing fear means: not letting external things that I can control, control me.
  • Not letting things control me means: not being afraid of money, not burying my head in the sand about money issues, talking about money with people, and taking charge of my life.
  • Taking charge of my life ultimately means: taking charge of my money.

So, stay tuned for more about finances, financial literacy, and financial wellness at Healthy Body, Healthy Life. It will be #financeFriday every Friday on my social media channels. Please head over to my Facebook page to see what is happening today, and tell me:

What’s your financial story?

Women in IT - I need your help!!

As many of you know, I run several coaching and fitness programs with my business Healthy Body, Happy Life. I have some really great ideas for things I'd like to do, but just because *I* think they’re great doesn’t mean everyone will. Before I start down the path of building these new programs, I'd like to make sure that what I want to do is actually wanted/needed by my IT Sisters!

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To make sure I'm on the right track, I am asking for your help: I'm conducting market research to find out more about the challenges and obstacles that women in Information Technology face in their career! As a thank you, everyone I interview will be entered into a drawing for a $50 Amazon Gift Card.

If you are, or you know a woman who is an analyst, coder, project manager, or otherwise in IT, I would like to talk to you.  I'm interested in hearing from women in all types of IT, so if you think this description fits you, please let me know by registering for a 30 minute interview! Feel free to forward this post to any women that you know who also fit this description.

In addition to being entered in the drawing, at the end of my market research, you'll receive a free report with information about websites, groups, events, and more, that other women in IT are utilizing and participating in.  You’ll also be the first to know when the programs I’m developing are available!

Thank you for your support!
 

Healthy Lives Book Group

I had some down time the other day while I was at the DMV, so I decided to start a book club. You know, like you do. 

I’ve been reading an advance copy of Danielle LaPorte’s new book White Hot Truths, and I’m dying to discuss it with people.  I’ve been messaging my friend Trina because I know she is also reading it, but I think she was probably about done with my text messages at the end of each chapter: “Did you reach chapter xx? Wasn’t it great? I felt like Danielle was reading my mind again!!! You gotta read it!” [Get a grip, Eva!]

White Hot Truths is fascinating, and I wanna talk about it!! Come join me!

White Hot Truths is fascinating, and I wanna talk about it!! Come join me!

I’ve never been a “book club person”. I like to read my books (mostly fiction) and enjoy them, and not analyze them to death. I’m the person that is constantly asking: “What if the flower is blue because the author liked the color?” Because there *IS* such a thing as too much dissection.

I’ve been reading more self- and professional-development books lately, and I realize that these kinds of books are things that I would actually like to talk to other people about. I have a lot of friends that I chat with on Facebook about these books and the related topics, but we all live in different places and it’s hard to catch up. *I* also really like my time at home… thus was born the Healthy Life Book Group!

The book comes out next week (5/16/2017) and you can buy it here. (This is my Amazon Affiliate link. I get a couple of cents. You get an awesome book.)

You can sign up for the FREE book group here. The system will require you to sign up for all the sessions so that you get a reminder. It’s okay if you can’t make it one week or other. 

We’ll start discussing White Hot Truths on June 1st at 7 PM Eastern via Zoom (online). A link to the meeting will be included in your reminder email. Once you sign up for the group you will receive an email with more information about future meetings and where you can go to get more information and start chatting.

I can't wait to get started!!!
 

Find Space

"Space, like time, engenders forgetfulness; but it does so by setting us bodily free from our surroundings and giving us back our primitive, unattached state."  --Thomas Mann, German novelist

I talk a lot about finding space in my yoga classes. Stretch to find space in your chest. Lengthen through your head and neck to find space in your back and spine. Finding space is one of the basic goals in our physical practice. Find space and things tend to migrate back to where they are supposed to be.

I've recently been working on finding space in my "emotional" practice. It's harder to do this without the physical cues, so I try to think about what is changing as I find space in my mind. Am I more focused today? Am I able to let worry go? Am I fixated on something in particular?  These are some of the questions I ask myself, and it seems to work really well. I don't always find the space I'm looking for, but at least I'm thinking about it and working on it. Maybe that's all that is necessary?

I'd appreciate hearing your thoughts on how you find space. Please leave a note on the pinned post on my FB page, and let us know how you find physical, emotional, or intellectual space.